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BUT don’t ride with her any where yet.LOL {{{{Lyn}}} I have had a ok marriage & a second great one. If you can try to fall back in love with your wife.JMHO because kids need both of you. Most married couples have "bad patches" as my MIL told me. Belinda – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> got to be rough though, to marry someone and then have them > change dramatically. I used to be a "fixer", and a person > that would put everyones needs and wants ahead of his own. > I never liked myself or thought I had any value unless I was > helping someone else or trying to make them happy. Now I > see myself in an entirely different light. I want to be > happy too, and I am, most of the time. I’m still not used > to it though, and neither is anyone else around me. I can’t > go back to what I used to be, it would kill me..literally. > I was very close to implementing a permanent solution to > all my problems back in February and I don’t want to ever > be there again. I have no idea what to do except live life > one day at a time…sometimes only an hour at a time. I know > that no one can fix things for me but it helps to know that > there are people out there that can listen and understand and > care. I have wonderful people around me here as well but sometimes > you just can’t tell them what you’re feeling. I’ll just > have to keep putting one foot in front of the other > and continue on. Things could be much worse…it helps if > I just keep telling myself that. Thanks for letting me > whine for a little while. I think I’ll go back to bed and > try to find at least a couple of hours of sleep. Hope you > all have a good day today. > http://www.monarch.net/users/Lynsplace/ > —–= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =—– > http://www.newsfeeds.com – The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! > —–== Over 80,000 Newsgroups – 16 Different Servers! =—– > — > http://www.erols.com/bobndiana/ > http://lep694.gsfc.nasa.gov/lepedu/FrontPage.html

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DeeTee – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I’d really like to write something that would > encourage everyone in ASA tonight, but, I really > don’t think I have it in me right now. I haven’t > been around my computer much this summer and I must > be out of practice. I don’t feel all that optimistic > anyway. I’m trying to look at all the positive things > that have been happening in my life and I can’t seem > to get past the pain and heartache I’m feeling. I can’t > remember the last time I didn’t hurt somewhere…usually > several somewheres. I don’t sleep more than two or three > hours at a time, and I think I’m a little (ha) depressed. > My marriage is in trouble, I’m not sure why. > We’re going for counseling with the hope of working > things out. I don’t know what happened and I’m confused > and hurt. I keep blaming myself but maybe it’s not about > blame. I’ve changed a lot over the last year and I’m no > longer sure who I am. It’s not that the changes are bad, > in fact, they’re for the most part, very positive. It’s > got to be rough though, to marry someone and then have them > change dramatically. I used to be a "fixer", and a person > that would put everyones needs and wants ahead of his own. > I never liked myself or thought I had any value unless I was > helping someone else or trying to make them happy. Now I > see myself in an entirely different light. I want to be > happy too, and I am, most of the time. I’m still not used > to it though, and neither is anyone else around me. I can’t > go back to what I used to be, it would kill me..literally. > I was very close to implementing a permanent solution to > all my problems back in February and I don’t want to ever > be there again. I have no idea what to do except live life > one day at a time…sometimes only an hour at a time. I know > that no one can fix things for me but it helps to know that > there are people out there that can listen and understand and > care. I have wonderful people around me here as well but sometimes > you just can’t tell them what you’re feeling. I’ll just > have to keep putting one foot in front of the other > and continue on. Things could be much worse…it helps if > I just keep telling myself that. Thanks for letting me > whine for a little while. I think I’ll go back to bed and > try to find at least a couple of hours of sleep. Hope you > all have a good day today. > http://www.monarch.net/users/Lynsplace/ > —–= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =—– > http://www.newsfeeds.com – The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! > —–== Over 80,000 Newsgroups – 16 Different Servers! =—–

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Hi Lyn…I just wanted you to know that I’m sending positive thoughts your way…sometimes the best we can do is to put one foot in front of the other and take things one day at a time…Things seem to have a way of working out the way they are supposed to be…Please take care of yourself..this group has lots of good advice and support for you…Please let us know how you are doing..we care! ~Marsha

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Lyn, it’s good that you are sharing and not keeping things bottled up…you knew in your heart that either we had been where you are or at least understood and you would get the love and support you needed and wanted.That’s a very important decision you made! When I quit drinking, we had a massive undertaking to adjust to each other…then it happened again when my body fell apart. bottom line was that we knew we loved each other and wanted to give it a chance. And that took time. And yes, there were days it was an hour at at time and sometimes it was a minute at a time. Life ebbs and flows…highs,lows…love,dislike….you will make it. Harve is right—call that doc about help for sleeping. sleep deprivation has been used as torture because of the mental changes it brings about…please don’t scoff at the idea of getting the rest…restorative rest that you need. Unlike our loving DeeTee, I am not sending an extra gentle hug….HERE IS ONE HELL OF A BEAR HUG AND YOU HANG ON UNTIL YOU FEEL BETTER:)Donna — PILGRIM ON A JOURNEY…. i TOOK THE FIRST STEP Before you buy.

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Lyn, when the pain gets bad & you get down just remember the sunlight on 1 of the kids hair, the smile when they "discovered" something in nature, the soft glow of lightng bugs, or any of your favorite memories from this summer. Belinda walk in beauty

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{{{{{Lyn}}}}} Change in one partner, even for the good, can put a strain on a marriage. I hope things work out for you. My thoughts are with you both. Sarah L "Friends are those people who know the words to the song in your heart and sing them back to you when you have forgotten the words." (unattributed)

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Lyn, I’m so sorry to hear about your trouble, and am saying a prayer that your wife will fall in love with the new Lyn soon as much as she surely did with the old one. You take care, and remember, no blame. Give it lots of time, love and patience while she gets to know the new you, and I’m sure it will all work out. Liz G

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> Give it lots of >time, love and patience while she gets to know the new you, and I’m sure it >will all work out. Liz G

In all fairness, I have to say that it’s me that will have to figure out how to "fall in love" again. It’s been a very difficult few months with a lot of water under the bridge. After all that’s happened, I’m the one who’s unsure of my feelings. Now you know why I’m blaming myself. I can’t and won’t lie about how I feel and that doesn’t make it any easier for her. Oh well, one day at a time. http://www.monarch.net/users/Lynsplace/ —–= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =—– http://www.newsfeeds.com – The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! —–== Over 80,000 Newsgroups – 16 Different Servers! =—–

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Lyn, I know how you feel. I could have written a lot of this myself a little while back Life is hard enough without the extra burden of pain and lack of sleep It’s hard to say no to people needing help and not feel guilty afterwards. If you’re the fixer people automatically turn to you . They don’t think to ask someone else or sort it out themselves. I’ve been in this position myself.. .Now I find it really hard to ask people to help me. I’m sure we’ve all thought of the ‘permanent solution ‘ at some time or another. In a way ,the thought of NOT having to go on any more helps you to keep going. It’s always something you can do tomorrow and tomorrow never comes. It won’t always be as bad as this. Have hope. OK! Ally

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I’d really like to write something that would > encourage everyone in ASA tonight, but, I really > don’t think I have it in me right now. I haven’t > been around my computer much this summer and I must > be out of practice. I don’t feel all that optimistic > anyway. I’m trying to look at all the positive things > that have been happening in my life and I can’t seem > to get past the pain and heartache I’m feeling. I can’t > remember the last time I didn’t hurt somewhere…usually > several somewheres. I don’t sleep more than two or three > hours at a time, and I think I’m a little (ha) depressed. > My marriage is in trouble, I’m not sure why. > We’re going for counseling with the hope of working > things out. I don’t know what happened and I’m confused > and hurt. I keep blaming myself but maybe it’s not about > blame. I’ve changed a lot over the last year and I’m no > longer sure who I am. It’s not that the changes are bad, > in fact, they’re for the most part, very positive. It’s > got to be rough though, to marry someone and then have them > change dramatically. I used to be a "fixer", and a person > that would put everyones needs and wants ahead of his own. > I never liked myself or thought I had any value unless I was > helping someone else or trying to make them happy. Now I > see myself in an entirely different light. I want to be > happy too, and I am, most of the time. I’m still not used > to it though, and neither is anyone else around me. I can’t > go back to what I used to be, it would kill me..literally. > I was very close to implementing a permanent solution to > all my problems back in February and I don’t want to ever > be there again. I have no idea what to do except live life > one day at a time…sometimes only an hour at a time. I know > that no one can fix things for me but it helps to know that > there are people out there that can listen and understand and > care. I have wonderful people around me here as well but sometimes > you just can’t tell them what you’re feeling. I’ll just > have to keep putting one foot in front of the other > and continue on. Things could be much worse…it helps if > I just keep telling myself that. Thanks for letting me > whine for a little while. I think I’ll go back to bed and > try to find at least a couple of hours of sleep. Hope you > all have a good day today. > http://www.monarch.net/users/Lynsplace/ > —–= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =—– > http://www.newsfeeds.com – The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! > —–== Over 80,000 Newsgroups – 16 Different Servers! =—–

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Lyn, I’m new to the group, but not to the pain or the feelings you describe. I see a lot of hope and support in the posts above mine. Please don’t ever give up. There is a purpose to your life. DO look at the positive experiences you’ve had and focus on them whenever you need to. You’ll be in my prayers. Jim McGowan

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I’d really like to write something that would encourage everyone in ASA tonight, but, I really don’t think I have it in me right now. I haven’t been around my computer much this summer and I must be out of practice. I don’t feel all that optimistic anyway. I’m trying to look at all the positive things that have been happening in my life and I can’t seem to get past the pain and heartache I’m feeling. I can’t remember the last time I didn’t hurt somewhere…usually several somewheres. I don’t sleep more than two or three hours at a time, and I think I’m a little (ha) depressed. My marriage is in trouble, I’m not sure why. We’re going for counseling with the hope of working things out. I don’t know what happened and I’m confused and hurt. I keep blaming myself but maybe it’s not about blame. I’ve changed a lot over the last year and I’m no longer sure who I am. It’s not that the changes are bad, in fact, they’re for the most part, very positive. It’s got to be rough though, to marry someone and then have them change dramatically. I used to be a "fixer", and a person that would put everyones needs and wants ahead of his own. I never liked myself or thought I had any value unless I was helping someone else or trying to make them happy. Now I see myself in an entirely different light. I want to be happy too, and I am, most of the time. I’m still not used to it though, and neither is anyone else around me. I can’t go back to what I used to be, it would kill me..literally. I was very close to implementing a permanent solution to all my problems back in February and I don’t want to ever be there again. I have no idea what to do except live life one day at a time…sometimes only an hour at a time. I know that no one can fix things for me but it helps to know that there are people out there that can listen and understand and care. I have wonderful people around me here as well but sometimes you just can’t tell them what you’re feeling. I’ll just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other and continue on. Things could be much worse…it helps if I just keep telling myself that. Thanks for letting me whine for a little while. I think I’ll go back to bed and try to find at least a couple of hours of sleep. Hope you all have a good day today. http://www.monarch.net/users/Lynsplace/ —–= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =—– http://www.newsfeeds.com – The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! —–== Over 80,000 Newsgroups – 16 Different Servers! =—–

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Lyn…..here’s a hug for you..(((((((((Lyn)))))))) I fully understand what you are feeling. I’ve been right where you are and it is a shitty place to be. But, life does get better. I know you don’t feel that right now, but I am living proof (with emphasis on LIVING) that it can and it does! This group has helped me so much through my trials of life, I don’t know how I would’ve gotten this far without the encouragement and support from my ASA family. We’re all here for you, Lyn. Hang in there. Gloria – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >I’d really like to write something that would >encourage everyone in ASA tonight, but, I really >don’t think I have it in me right now. I haven’t >been around my computer much this summer and I must >be out of practice. I don’t feel all that optimistic >anyway. I’m trying to look at all the positive things >that have been happening in my life and I can’t seem >to get past the pain and heartache I’m feeling. I can’t >remember the last time I didn’t hurt somewhere…usually >several somewheres. I don’t sleep more than two or three >hours at a time, and I think I’m a little (ha) depressed. >My marriage is in trouble, I’m not sure why. >We’re going for counseling with the hope of working >things out. I don’t know what happened and I’m confused >and hurt. I keep blaming myself but maybe it’s not about >blame. I’ve changed a lot over the last year and I’m no >longer sure who I am. It’s not that the changes are bad, >in fact, they’re for the most part, very positive. It’s >got to be rough though, to marry someone and then have them >change dramatically. I used to be a "fixer", and a person >that would put everyones needs and wants ahead of his own. >I never liked myself or thought I had any value unless I was >helping someone else or trying to make them happy. Now I >see myself in an entirely different light. I want to be >happy too, and I am, most of the time. I’m still not used >to it though, and neither is anyone else around me. I can’t >go back to what I used to be, it would kill me..literally. >I was very close to implementing a permanent solution to >all my problems back in February and I don’t want to ever >be there again. I have no idea what to do except live life >one day at a time…sometimes only an hour at a time. I know >that no one can fix things for me but it helps to know that >there are people out there that can listen and understand and >care. I have wonderful people around me here as well but sometimes >you just can’t tell them what you’re feeling. I’ll just >have to keep putting one foot in front of the other >and continue on. Things could be much worse…it helps if >I just keep telling myself that. Thanks for letting me >whine for a little while. I think I’ll go back to bed and >try to find at least a couple of hours of sleep. Hope you >all have a good day today. > http://www.monarch.net/users/Lynsplace/ >—–= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =—– >http://www.newsfeeds.com – The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! >—–== Over 80,000 Newsgroups – 16 Different Servers! =—–

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Damn Lyn, I had hoped that when you werent around for a while, that you were too busy and happy to need us for awhile. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Char "Remember, I’m pulling for ya’. We’re all in this together." Red Green

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Hi Lyn, Print what you have said below. Let your husband read it. Let the help you and your husband are going to get read it. I can feel the depression in your words. One thing you can do is to get something from your doctor to help you sleep. A well rested person looks at the world a little differently. I have been where you are and it takes help from the people around you with understanding along with positive thinking and refussing to dwell on the negative. A person really can help themself along with the help from others. Harv – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I’d really like to write something that would > encourage everyone in ASA tonight, but, I really > don’t think I have it in me right now. I haven’t > been around my computer much this summer and I must > be out of practice. I don’t feel all that optimistic > anyway. I’m trying to look at all the positive things > that have been happening in my life and I can’t seem > to get past the pain and heartache I’m feeling. I can’t > remember the last time I didn’t hurt somewhere…usually > several somewheres. I don’t sleep more than two or three > hours at a time, and I think I’m a little (ha) depressed. > My marriage is in trouble, I’m not sure why. > We’re going for counseling with the hope of working > things out. I don’t know what happened and I’m confused > and hurt. I keep blaming myself but maybe it’s not about > blame. I’ve changed a lot over the last year and I’m no > longer sure who I am. It’s not that the changes are bad, > in fact, they’re for the most part, very positive. It’s > got to be rough though, to marry someone and then have them > change dramatically. I used to be a "fixer", and a person > that would put everyones needs and wants ahead of his own. > I never liked myself or thought I had any value unless I was > helping someone else or trying to make them happy. Now I > see myself in an entirely different light. I want to be > happy too, and I am, most of the time. I’m still not used > to it though, and neither is anyone else around me. I can’t > go back to what I used to be, it would kill me..literally. > I was very close to implementing a permanent solution to > all my problems back in February and I don’t want to ever > be there again. I have no idea what to do except live life > one day at a time…sometimes only an hour at a time. I know > that no one can fix things for me but it helps to know that > there are people out there that can listen and understand and > care. I have wonderful people around me here as well but sometimes > you just can’t tell them what you’re feeling. I’ll just > have to keep putting one foot in front of the other > and continue on. Things could be much worse…it helps if > I just keep telling myself that. Thanks for letting me > whine for a little while. I think I’ll go back to bed and > try to find at least a couple of hours of sleep. Hope you > all have a good day today. > http://www.monarch.net/users/Lynsplace/ > —–= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =—– > http://www.newsfeeds.com – The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! > —–== Over 80,000 Newsgroups – 16 Different Servers! =—–

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Sweetheart – you can come here and talk to us ANYTIME!! And, if you just need someone to talk to, I am willing to go one on one with you. You should also look into some local support groups where you can occasionally get a physical hug as well as the cyber hugs we can give you. You are a special, precious person and we love you. Hang in there! {{{{Lyn}}}} <- I made your hug extra gentle today. DeeTee – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > I’d really like to write something that would > encourage everyone in ASA tonight, but, I really > don’t think I have it in me right now. I haven’t > been around my computer much this summer and I must > be out of practice. I don’t feel all that optimistic > anyway. I’m trying to look at all the positive things > that have been happening in my life and I can’t seem > to get past the pain and heartache I’m feeling. I can’t > remember the last time I didn’t hurt somewhere…usually > several somewheres. I don’t sleep more than two or three > hours at a time, and I think I’m a little (ha) depressed. > My marriage is in trouble, I’m not sure why. > We’re going for counseling with the hope of working > things out. I don’t know what happened and I’m confused > and hurt. I keep blaming myself but maybe it’s not about > blame. I’ve changed a lot over the last year and I’m no > longer sure who I am. It’s not that the changes are bad, > in fact, they’re for the most part, very positive. It’s > got to be rough though, to marry someone and then have them > change dramatically. I used to be a "fixer", and a person > that would put everyones needs and wants ahead of his own. > I never liked myself or thought I had any value unless I was > helping someone else or trying to make them happy. Now I > see myself in an entirely different light. I want to be > happy too, and I am, most of the time. I’m still not used > to it though, and neither is anyone else around me. I can’t > go back to what I used to be, it would kill me..literally. > I was very close to implementing a permanent solution to > all my problems back in February and I don’t want to ever > be there again. I have no idea what to do except live life > one day at a time…sometimes only an hour at a time. I know > that no one can fix things for me but it helps to know that > there are people out there that can listen and understand and > care. I have wonderful people around me here as well but sometimes > you just can’t tell them what you’re feeling. I’ll just > have to keep putting one foot in front of the other > and continue on. Things could be much worse…it helps if > I just keep telling myself that. Thanks for letting me > whine for a little while. I think I’ll go back to bed and > try to find at least a couple of hours of sleep. Hope you > all have a good day today. > http://www.monarch.net/users/Lynsplace/ > —–= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =—– > http://www.newsfeeds.com – The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! > —–== Over 80,000 Newsgroups – 16 Different Servers! =—–

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Lyn, Sending prayers and strength your way. Hope everything works out. Hang in there! {{{{{{Lyn}}}}}} :O) Mary Lynn (mlh) (O: :O) "Of all the things I’ve lost, I miss my mind the most" :O) (remove ma in email address)

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the bad bits. Nic Perth, W. Aus. <snip>> you just can’t tell them what you’re feeling. I’ll just – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> have to keep putting one foot in front of the other > and continue on. Things could be much worse…it helps if > I just keep telling myself that. Thanks for letting me > whine for a little while. I think I’ll go back to bed and > try to find at least a couple of hours of sleep. Hope you > all have a good day today. > http://www.monarch.net/users/Lynsplace/ > —–= Posted via Newsfeeds.Com, Uncensored Usenet News =—– > http://www.newsfeeds.com – The #1 Newsgroup Service in the World! > —–== Over 80,000 Newsgroups – 16 Different Servers! =—–

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